Not just anyone’s attention.
He needs his father to care.
In the opinion of my character, Andrew Bannister, his son has everything. He provides JD with a big house, playroom, and expensive toys and clothes.
A main character in the manuscript, Sons of the Edisto, JD experiences another kind of desertion.
How is JD and Andrew Bannister’s Relationship Important?
The story did not begin in 1921, when the book opens.
And, it has never ended.
Parental abandonment is more than the image of a woman or man walking out on a child. JD craves his father’s attention, and so do many children. Even if a parent is there, he or she still might not spend the amount of time his kids crave.
Neglect, walking out—or as I wrote about in my poem Legends of a Father—parental manipulation and alienation on the part of older children are some of the male issues about which I have written in nonfiction, fiction and poetry.
The Bannister family and others in Sons of the Edisto echo anguish: the need for change and relationships between fathers and children.
As a writer, I thought some men’s issues were pushed to the back.
Children come first.
Women deserve equal rights and equal pay.
What about men? Some feel trapped, isolated, and stay in a marriage for their children. Happiness is not an option. When a situation comes to light, they are condemned without understanding.
What about a man who lost his job? He knows how to work, but factories have shut down in his county. He is 45. Does he have the money to attend a community college and learn a new skill? Will someone help him? Is a company willing to risk higher insurance rates to hire such a man?
I realize many people are experiencing the same thing, but I can’t help but wonder have we forgotten the men and boys?
Don’t get me wrong. I write lighter stories, also, but here is what I propose. Send me a story, whether it is an article, short story, poem or a memory about a man who meant something to you personally or in imagination. Send it to my email: email@example.com, and I will check it out. Over the next two weeks, I will share four of those stories as a guest blog.
By Rebecca T. Dickinson
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